Thursday, April 14, 2011

Our History as We Know it - The start of the pain

So fast forward a few years to early 2001, we took a trip to Colorado and after a normal “romp and play” my wife said, that was odd it “kinda hurt” that time.  This was the start of the next 10 years and counting of a search for a cure.

My wife had reoccurring yeast  infections when she was late teens and early twenties and had been on birth control since she was 16 due to very heavy and irregular periods.  So I’m going to run through all the fun stuff we have tried over the last 10+ years and I’ll try and be quick about it as reading medical history is not a ton of fun, not that anything to do with this issue is any fun either.  So to take care of the yeast infections it was all about over the counter creams which burned, this was just before the oral yeast pill that works great!  We also tried just about every birth control pill on the market to see if she had become intolerant to the one she was on.  We also went to just about every gyno we could find as well a gyno/dermatologist team which took a close look at her tissue.  Everyone said, we don’t see anything wrong you look healthy.  We got some of the it must be in your head statements.  At this point we were becoming desperate, so we even tried alternative medicine (Asian Medicine).  My wife was given what I call a bunch of ingredients for a high end tea, to soak her lady parts in.  Needless to say it didn’t help any, and it wasn’t even some of the really nice smelling tea :-)

To start with my wife’s desire level stayed just as high as it was before the pain, but each time it didn’t feel good she would be disappointed and frustrated.  As time went on she went from multiple times a day to once or twice a week, and each time it hurt the next time she would initiate would be a little further out.  Eventually it got so bad that penetration was barely possible.  While this was going on it is important to note that other forms of stimulation were still pleasurable to my wife it was just the penetration that was painful.

Our history as we know it - Pre Pain

Well here we go, the history of the happy place part 1.   Before you start in you may want to go to the bathroom, grab something to eat and make sure you are in a comfortable chair.  I have broken this huge post into several parts for easier reading.

My wife and I have been together since she was a freshman in college.  We were “one of those couples”, we knew after about ten days of dating that we wanted to get married, we were very happy people.  Throughout the beginning of our marriage we didn’t have any of the pelvic pain issues, actually quite the opposite, we were the mythical newlyweds that couldn’t keep our hands off each other.  As the years went by we were not one of those couples that slowed down, except for a stretch while I was working on my masters and working full time, stress and lack of sleep slowed us down, but not by my wife’s doing.  This was all my fault.  I look back fondly at her statements of “do you think we are falling out of love, is our marriage ok, we haven’t fooled around forever.”  To which I would respond “It is only Wednesday, we did twice on Monday, I think we are doing just fine.”

I spell this out to make the point that we had a very healthy sex life early on in our marriage.

Next post will be the start of the pain.  

Intro to the blogging world


Wow a lot of pressure, my first blog ever.  Several of you have been kind enough to share your stories with me and give advice on the many “my girl parts hurt” blogs.  Some of you have asked if I ever thought of starting my own blog on the topic, being I offer another perspective. 

So on that topic, I’m the husband of a wonderful woman who has been dealing with pelvic pain for over 10 years now.  So I guess my goal for this blog is to share our story, give and get advice from those who ask and offer it, and to share the male perspective.  I cannot guarantee that my male perspective will be the same as the male in your lives, but I will respond to anything sent my way :-)

So there we go, short and to the point, blog #1 done

Husband